If you’ve been in a relationship for any length of time, there has probably been a moment where you apex out. What I mean by apex out is that you have gotten to a point of comfort where things start to become routine. You wake up and no words are spoken you walk by each other without kisses you react to each other without thinking. It’s not that you don’t love each other, it’s just that it seems like the spark is gone. Once in a while you sit there and contemplate on the past, the passion the fire and you finally look in the mirror and ask the question, what happened to us? The dangerous part about this stage is the curiousness that enters your mind. The wondering if you still got it, is the grass greener? When this happens we should stop everything and have an open uninhibited discussion with your partner. We have to remember what brought us to the dance in the first place. The reason we reach this apex is because the fact is courting is work. We spend half our lives in preparation for courting. The make-up, the work outs, the running and to be blunt even the extra mile you went to please in the bed room. The truth is once it is official, and you are finally in a relationship with someone it becomes natural logic to let things go. We stop working out, we shove Twinkies and Donuts down our throats, we become lazier in the bed room and slowly things start to become a routine. Why? Believe it or not it is overconfidence that you suffer from and that you must keep in check. When we begin to feel that there is no way my partner would leave me, or that s/he loves me too much to go anywhere else. Those who make this mistake usually are shocked when they find out that their partner has either left or cheated. We don’t think it’s overconfidence but it really is. Every once in a while we have to reignite that spark. Send your mate flowers for no reason, greet your mate with a hug and a kiss when he comes in from work. A surprise from the normal every now and then will remind both of you why you came together in the first place. Sparks turn into flames but if we don’t maintain that flame, work on it throw wood in there every now and then, that flame eventually burns out.